And, as we all know, I am human. I received a rather intelligent, kind and considerate email from, of all people, the person whose post I was ranting about in https://camylleon.wordpress.com/2011/12/15/looks-like-i-hit-a-nerve-completely-unscheduled-post/. It’s wonderful to know that there are people like her in the world… people with manners, and who know how to politely tell you when you’re being an ass.
She has taken her original post down, I believe. Not because I demanded it. In fact, I would have rather she left it up. Not so that we could all go over there and bash it but because I would have liked the chance to discuss some of the points she did bring up, and to defend myself eloquently instead of turning the bitch-mode on, which is what I did.
I will not be apologizing here for most of what I wrote. Because most of it was simply emphasizing the point that the entire blog, https://camylleon.wordpress.com/2011/12/14/apostrophic-disasters-or-what-i-hate-about-fantasy-fiction/, was my opinion. Which it was. And is. And I still stand behind it.
What I will apologize for…and REALLY NEED TO APOLOGIZE FOR was the line that I crossed. Because I let it get personal.
Truth is, this wonder kid probably found this post because of a comment I’d made on another blog. I was sincerely trying to help…for those of you to whom I’ve commented, you’ll know I’m sincere. My comment was ignored by the person who posted this, but she did make a very authoritative comment below it, basically marking this person as her territory.
Ok, that was completely unnecessary. And rude. Although it was true that was how she’d found my post…the inference that she was somehow a guru was a misinterpretation of my own. She’d hit a trigger of mine. I hate people who steamroll over me, ignore me, and in general give me the “guru vibe.” She had no intentions of giving me that vibe. Turns out she’s an alright sort of gal, just trying to help. Just like me. So…yeah…I don’t know if “I’m sorry” will cut it, but I am.
Of course, the ranter in question…the one who rather blatantly ignored my comment on the other page yet who decided to completely torpedo my post without the courtesy of posting a link…does happen to sell things. Gee…maybe she’s worried her income is threatened? Oh…sorry, just me being paranoid. Likely she writes, too, and probably writes dreadful fantasy fiction involving sparkly vampires. No…she writes fan fiction involving sparkly vampires.
Was completely and utterly unnecessary, bordering on the edge of hostile. Yes, it was funny…but at someone else’s expense. Which should never, ever be acceptable. Unless I’m making fun of Twilight. Which I guess she hates, too, despite appearing to defend it. *shrug* She apparently took that side because she thought I was implying that I hate the entire genre. That I don’t read. That it’s all crap. Well, no. I certainly didn’t mean to give that impression, and I certainly thought that I didn’t.
The problem is, for all of us here in blog-land, that we can only control what we put out. We can’t control how it is received, interpreted, or processed. What we have here is a whole lot of miscommunication. Lines were crossed, feelings were unnecessarily hurt.
And instead of removing the posts and pretending the whole thing didn’t happen, I’m going to suck it up and admit that I went over the line, and I am publicly very, very sorry. I haven’t linked her to this post because I do not know whether or not she wants her name/blog to be public. She might be nervous that she’d get slammed with rude comments. I’d be nervous myself…although I know my readers here aren’t that sort…if I didn’t know them…yeah, I’d be nervous. So here’s my offer. If she wants people to know who she is, all she has to do is comment on this blog. If she doesn’t want it known, there’s only three of us who will ever know, and it will eventually become dust.
In the meantime, I am truly, utterly, ashamedly sorry that I let my wit and temper get the better of me, and I’m hoping we can put this behind us (maybe laugh at it someday) and even become friends.
Hell, if Star Wars and Star Trek fans can get along, isn’t there hope for all of us?